When All is Lost…and crashing down!

We’ve all experienced times in our life when all goes flying in different directions. It could be anything that happens depending on what you have going on in your life at that time. The ‘All is Lost’ moment! Everything just caves in. It could be a financial disaster. Your stocks just tanked and you lost your savings in the stock market. You lost your home. The engine in your car just seized right out of nowhere. Or maybe you’ve been having difficulties keeping up with everything and one payment bounces in your bank account and creates a domino effect for 4 other payments. 

In an all is lost moment, everything collapses and at one point when you bounce off the pavement as you hit bottom everything seems totally useless. Absolutely nothing is working.

It's here where you get to meet your real self. You start to think about how much money you really do have. What friends you can call. What other resources do you have? What can you do? What can you really do about this disaster that is just destroying your being and your life and everything that comes into contact with it?

It turns out that even though it appears all is lost, you will survive and you will get through this. Right now though you are on the hot seat.

Or it appears like you are on the hot seat.

You have to take time to breathe. Just stay the course and slow everything down. Real slow. Even grab yourself a notepad.

There are people out there that will help you. Resources and people highly skilled and trained to help you deal with your situation.

You just have to look around.

You can ask yourself why this happened and what you were supposed to learn from this experience later, but first you have to take care of

your stuff. Whatever that is for you.

A good way to start is to make a list of everything that you think is going on with this moment in your life. Do you have someone specifically that you can talk to confidentially that can hear you out

just so you can verbalize things or even give you some immediate feedback? It's important to vent when something like this happens.

A different set of eyes or ears can sometimes see things that we just 

do not see when there is a crisis going on in our life. A lot of times there is an obvious solution. We just don’t see it by ourselves. There is always someone out there that has had the same ‘all is lost’ moment and still figured it out. Against all odds! That means, if they can solve it then so can you.

The other thing you can do just to take a bit of the stress off, is too

go to your gym and exercise or even better yet go for a long walk.

Your physiology completely shifts when you start walking and or exercising. It shifts your brain, releases endorphins, your cortisol levels changes and all kinds of other feel good chemicals in your neural system are released.

Now you know there is a reason all of this happened. When you get through all of it, a year from now you can look back on this and it will make perfect sense why all this happened. For now though, it's important you stay in the now and allow yourself to move yourself through it.

When something like this happens, I like to make a list of ‘What is great about this?’ This allows the brain to at least see the positive side of the situation and lean towards favorable outcomes. And I don’t mean make a list so that you can ignore your situation, however it is important to always keep in the back of your mind that there is a solution. You might figure it out today. You might not. But, there is a solution for what you are going through.

This is your new project now. Until you have put a cap on it and taken action, it will dominate your life until you take enough action.

Do you know what it is? When you cut through everything, is there one thing or area of your life that really is the crux of the problem of this crisis you are going through. Sometimes that will surface.

Sometimes too, when we have large goals that we are striving for, one big explosion will pop up just to test us. So, think about where you were in your life before this new drama popped up. A couple days before, a few weeks before it happened, what was the one thing you were most excited about in your life. The future you created in your mind and like to talk about all the time. Is that still with you and is that still important to you? Because you don’t want this monumental in your face issue that just popped up get in your way of achieving it. After you move through this, get the noise out of the way and get it wrapped up, you can continue on with the big picture. You need your daily focus more now than any other time. You have to still look after the little things, however it is crucial that you keep and maintain your focus.